silversarcasm:

[Gifset: Laverne Cox speaks at the GLAAD media awards, she says,

"Each and every one of us has the capacity to be an oppressor. I want to encourage each and every one of us to interrogate how we might be an oppressor, and how we might be able to become liberators for ourselves and each other."]

femmeanddangerous:

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Zero-tolerance policies and overemphasis on academics and athletics have practically eliminated social and emotional functioning from school culture.

Shea Love, mother of a special needs high school student who was arrested and charged with “disorderly conduct” for recording other students bullying him. In other words, he was criminally charged for speaking out (with proof) about the mistreatment he received at school. 

I think that this quote is especially relevant to education in general. Schools over-emphasis on tests and looking good for colleges/on a resume leave students emotionally bankrupt. The social free-flowing aspects of school are being completely ignored or losing ground. Instead, there is a strict social structure (social hierarchy!) that is enforced and maintained through rigid schooling and school activities, such as sports. The ability of students to interact, and the guidance of academically fueled free flowing interaction (such as art shows, classroom debates, etc.) are being stifled. And this is hurting everyone. 


Become self sufficient! It scares our government more than anything!


I love this.

Become self sufficient! It scares our government more than anything!

I love this.

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I have a statcounter account to track the visitors of this blog, and LOL someone searched “darwin sex tumblr” on google and found my blog through it. Woot woot. Hello stranger, I like your use of keywords.

Also on that note someone has gone to my blog via facebook, which is weird because I have shared this blog on facebook maybe once, a very very long time ago. So I am wondering if anyone has possibly shared a post of mine on their facebooks or something. Ah, I am rambling. 

webelieveyou:

turtletot43:

baby-make-it-hurt:

hoffmango:

cause-shes-bittersweet:

smindersonfan:

secretmindreader:

Okay, this is actually what you do if you’re being sexually harassed in any kind of public space. Draw attention to it, preferably pull away and let EVERYONE know that someone is touching you. This will not only get him to get off you but he’ll definitely think about this situation next time he wants to do something like this.

Spreading the word.

My mom and I were talking about this today after hearing about a woman who was molested on a plane who said nothing until she was picked up at the airport by her parents. My mom looked at me and asked what I would do in that situation and I looked her dead in the eye and I told her “it would take me .02 seconds to realize what was going on and yell angrily, and then I would be straight on to bitch slapping him so hard he wouldn’t be able to see the punch I’d throw with the opposite hand”.
She nodded and accepted my salty language like a seasoned sailor.
I’ve had experience with this before, in Prague a group of five girls and I were followed by three men at night. After a while they started yelling at us, the most common being “how much?” Meaning how much we “cost” as prostitutes. Seeing as they weren’t going to stop, I turned on my heel, faced them (which surprised them), spat at their feet and responded with “You couldn’t afford me.” This prompted the other girls to start yelling back at them as well, starting with our spitfire Czech friend to start slinging curses in Czech as she and the rest of the girls came up beside me. Needless to say the men backed off and pretty much fled. They weren’t expecting a fight. It empowered me and encouraged the rest of the girls to yell back too.
I’ve heard that a lot of people don’t know what to do in this situation because they’ve been taught all their lives to be polite and non-aggressive. Keep your heads down or whatever.
Keep in mind that studies have shown that rapists look for victims who won’t fight back.
Remember that nobody has the right to touch you without your consent or harass you, and you have all the right to make the biggest fuss about it that you can possibly make.
Get angry. Be in command.

FUCKING RELEVANT

Yes.This.

Gentle reminder that I have publicly called someone out for an act of similar disrespect and…
got beaten unconscious. On a base full of fellow Marines.
If I had been anywhere else, I’m not sure I’d be alive today, because a fuckton of Marines descended on my attacker and pulled him away before he could finish beating me to death.
Sooooooo
Use good judgment. Screaming and yelling at a dude(s) is not always going to result in them backing down like dogs. 
The presence of other people does not mean that the aggressor is going to back down, nor does it mean that anyone will be around to save you from getting [shot/stabbed/beaten/raped/etc].
Stand up for yourself, but use good judgment.
Another option, if you aren’t 100% sure of your safety, is to quietly take mental notes/notes on your iPhone/piece of paper/whatthefuckever and take that information to the nearest police station. Report it to TSA/security/whoever is in charge at the place of the harassment. 

^^^ Important commentary.

Reminder that if you do not fight back or do not speak up, it is still not your fault. 
The above is not easy to do. It is not easy to stand up to someone who is assaulting you. Many victims freeze up, like a deer in headlights. This can happen during a rape or during a groping on public transport. This is incredibly common. It is not just, if at all, because of female socialization to “keep sweet”. It is largely due to our natural reactions to physical harm. In a lot of cases, victim’s bodies, before their brains can even do it, decide that they are going to freeze and “play dead”, waiting for the assault to stop. 
If you did not yell for help or fight back, it is still not your fault!!!! 
No one has the right to touch you against your will. No one has the right to touch you without your consent. 

webelieveyou:

turtletot43:

baby-make-it-hurt:

hoffmango:

cause-shes-bittersweet:

smindersonfan:

secretmindreader:

Okay, this is actually what you do if you’re being sexually harassed in any kind of public space. Draw attention to it, preferably pull away and let EVERYONE know that someone is touching you. This will not only get him to get off you but he’ll definitely think about this situation next time he wants to do something like this.

Spreading the word.

My mom and I were talking about this today after hearing about a woman who was molested on a plane who said nothing until she was picked up at the airport by her parents. My mom looked at me and asked what I would do in that situation and I looked her dead in the eye and I told her “it would take me .02 seconds to realize what was going on and yell angrily, and then I would be straight on to bitch slapping him so hard he wouldn’t be able to see the punch I’d throw with the opposite hand”.

She nodded and accepted my salty language like a seasoned sailor.

I’ve had experience with this before, in Prague a group of five girls and I were followed by three men at night. After a while they started yelling at us, the most common being “how much?” Meaning how much we “cost” as prostitutes. Seeing as they weren’t going to stop, I turned on my heel, faced them (which surprised them), spat at their feet and responded with “You couldn’t afford me.” This prompted the other girls to start yelling back at them as well, starting with our spitfire Czech friend to start slinging curses in Czech as she and the rest of the girls came up beside me. Needless to say the men backed off and pretty much fled. They weren’t expecting a fight. It empowered me and encouraged the rest of the girls to yell back too.

I’ve heard that a lot of people don’t know what to do in this situation because they’ve been taught all their lives to be polite and non-aggressive. Keep your heads down or whatever.

Keep in mind that studies have shown that rapists look for victims who won’t fight back.

Remember that nobody has the right to touch you without your consent or harass you, and you have all the right to make the biggest fuss about it that you can possibly make.

Get angry. Be in command.

FUCKING RELEVANT

Yes.
This.

Gentle reminder that I have publicly called someone out for an act of similar disrespect and…

got beaten unconscious. On a base full of fellow Marines.

If I had been anywhere else, I’m not sure I’d be alive today, because a fuckton of Marines descended on my attacker and pulled him away before he could finish beating me to death.

Sooooooo

Use good judgment. Screaming and yelling at a dude(s) is not always going to result in them backing down like dogs. 

The presence of other people does not mean that the aggressor is going to back down, nor does it mean that anyone will be around to save you from getting [shot/stabbed/beaten/raped/etc].

Stand up for yourself, but use good judgment.

Another option, if you aren’t 100% sure of your safety, is to quietly take mental notes/notes on your iPhone/piece of paper/whatthefuckever and take that information to the nearest police station. Report it to TSA/security/whoever is in charge at the place of the harassment. 

^^^ Important commentary.

Reminder that if you do not fight back or do not speak up, it is still not your fault. 

The above is not easy to do. It is not easy to stand up to someone who is assaulting you. Many victims freeze up, like a deer in headlights. This can happen during a rape or during a groping on public transport. This is incredibly common. It is not just, if at all, because of female socialization to “keep sweet”. It is largely due to our natural reactions to physical harm. In a lot of cases, victim’s bodies, before their brains can even do it, decide that they are going to freeze and “play dead”, waiting for the assault to stop. 

If you did not yell for help or fight back, it is still not your fault!!!! 

No one has the right to touch you against your will. No one has the right to touch you without your consent. 

(Source: nothingbutobsessions.tumblr.com\)

Seeing all these stories in the news about how people call 911 but then don’t actually get any help (the cops never show up, the operator hangs up, tons of crazy shit has happened) is actually pretty terrifying to me. 

This is because I always have dreams about being attacked, chased, etc. and in my dreams whenever I call 911 it is always completely unhelpful, either I get the wrong number or I can’t dial it in at all. Same with my voice, when I am in trouble in dreams I always lose it and cannot scream for help. 

More grounded in reality, I think these stories show how important self-defense (and perhaps gun rights) are, because you can never trust the police / the state to protect you. 

Human beings are not rational. We are prone to making certain kinds of logical flaws. We have inherited traditions that may or may not fit the current times. All our experiences from birth influence our perceptions and behaviors, whether or not we want it to. The human mind is prone to see conspiracy where none exists, to see intention where none exists and to see groups instead of individuals. None of this is particularly logical.

We can become more rational but it takes effort. It takes education and analysis of things like privilege and sexism. And feminism provides this.

I am a libertarian feminist because I want to eradicate prejudice. I want to treat others as individuals, not as the sum of the prejudices I carry around in my head. The world would be a better place if we were all treated as individuals, and empowered to act as individuals.

jellyfishtimes:

Started from the bottom now I’ve got 600 drafts and no idea what to do with them all.

Ugh I have so many drafts that I’ve started on this blog. Mostly lengthy responses about political issues in which I either did not have time or didn’t have the right words to conclude my end of the debate how I wished, so I just saved it for later. 

Of course later never came and now I’m stuck with all of these drafts. On one hand, this is good material I want on my blog. On the other, it is incomplete and overwhelming and ahh I think too much. 

ozziescribbler:

misandry-mermaid:

misassandry:

excessofcats:

dickrockerjanecrocker:

likesboyswholikeboys:

you can preach about slut-shaming all you want, but you can’t deny there’s something very wrong with 13 and 14-year old girls going out in skirts and dresses so short they barely cover their asses and shirts with necklines so low they show off cleave they haven’t got yet, drinking and even smoking and hooking up with guys before they even have a substantial knowledge of how sex and sexual relationships work.

Thank YOU HOLY SHIT

yeah this is why we have an age of consent thing

sexualizing young girls is disturbing and it’s even more horrifying when they do it to themselves

Okay, no but listen. You cannot slut shame a child because a child cannot be a slut. Let’s have fun with our diction, shall we?

I am a in my 20s and sexually active. Very sexually active. I am, in fact, a slut. I mean, I am. Because I, a consenting adult, have made the conscious choice to be sexually active with many different people at many different times. And, if I decide to wear short skirts and shorts and crop tops and write my phone number on a guys hand at the bar, that is a choice I made as an adult. That is why an age of consent exists. Because, as an adult, I am capable of consenting.

Now, a 13 yr old girl might also wear short skirts and shorts and crop tops and write her phone number on boys’ hands in the cafeteria or wherever the fuck kids are hanging out these days. She might even be having sex. She really might. Here’s why she is not a slut and I am: she is a child. She is not old enough to consent to anything. She is a little girl who has been raised in a society that teaches her that that behavior is expected from her. She walks to school everyday and passes by 5 billboards with women splayed across a man because of his body spray or toothpaste or car or wart remover cream. So, when she turns 13 and wants to be “womanly”, her idea of how women behave has been embedded as what you would describe as “a slut”. So, maybe, just maybe, instead of worrying about the clothing of a child, we should examine what about our society has made that child want those clothes.

Also, let’s take a quick detour to discuss how any adult looking at a 13 yr old girl in a miniskirt and thinking “slut” instead of “child” is a huge, huge part of the problem. And, to be perfectly honest, I’m going to say that, in that context, the adult is the one with the bigger problem.

In my experience, both personally and as a youth mentor, preteen girls who dress provocatively and/or start having sex young are more likely to have experienced childhood sexual abuse, abuse of other forms (neglect, emotional, physical, etc), have mental disorders, or suffer from low self esteem as a result of the measurably sharp drop in self-esteem in girls right around puberty.  Slut-shaming children for their choices is a ridiculously ignorant and dangerous thing to do.  These girls deserve compassion, education and unconditional respect, not shame and ridicule for fucks sake.

Bolded the most relevant part for emphasis.