Oh—you wouldn’t date a girl who’s ever done porn? In that case, I wouldn’t date a guy who’s ever watched porn. this is just not the same thing AT ALL. actors in porn often have sex with dozens of people in their career and have a different mindset when it comes to sexuality. If your s/o has appeared in porn anyone, anywhere, any time can look that up and see them having sex. some people just aren't comfortable with that and that's okay. watching porn is completely different everyone does it@Anonymous
The two are different.
The purpose of that post was to call out the hypocrisy of slut shamers. As the post said “If you disdain sex workers, don’t you dare consume our labor.”
Sex workers get so much shit all the time from the very people who provide the demand for their industry. People will talk about how shameful porn actresses are, how “dirty and slutty” they are, and then go home and watch porn themselves. No, it doesn’t work that way. What the quoted sex worker is saying is sort of like a big fuck you - you don’t get to shame us for providing you with a service. You don’t get to ruin our lives for doing something that you want us to do anyway. If you hate porn actresses so much, don’t consume them.
Yes, there are legitimate concerns to dating someone in the sex industry that don’t exist with people who just watch porn. But there are also legitimate concerns with dating someone who does watch porn, or especially people who go to strip clubs. Those are not talked about. Sex workers are shamed to and fro, but the people who consume them get no bad rep. When, in reality, porn can have a detrimental affect on sexuality and relationships, and going to strip clubs just speaks to a frame of mind about the objectification of women that to me is just disgusting. THOSE are legitimate concerns, too. But they are never considered. While, for a sex worker, everything they do is scrutinized. As with most industries, we put the moral question on the supply rather than the demand.
I also want to say that not everyone watches porn. I myself am not completely against porn, although I do believe that we must be critical of the industry. But not everyone watches porn!! There are plenty of reasons to choose not to consume porn. Those might be to better your own sex life, because you are disgusted by it, because you just don’t like it, whatever! Some people prefer to read erotic fiction. Some people don’t have access to a computer and don’t want to buy dvds. Some people are morally opposed. Saying that “all people watch porn” is a way of excusing the consumers actions as being unquestionable and taking the burden of responsibility off of them. When in reality, many people choose not to watch porn. Watching porn and going to strip clubs must be recognized as a choice, and if the sex workers are feeling the social burden of that choice, the people who they do it for should, too.